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Lyarra dying while Benjen was a baby (please no childbirth again George!) would explain why Lyanna grew up so wild & was not willing to quietly get sold off as a perfect southern lady.
It’s a possibility but I personally hesitate to attribute Lyanna’s nature to her mother’s absence, especially in a series where Arya Stark exists. Arya takes after Lyanna is nature even with a mother and a septa overseeing her education and trying to tame her wildness and mold her into “a proper” lady. I also think that if it was simply a matter of lack of maternal/ladylike supervision, then Rickard would have taken great care to remedy the situation by providing a caretaker to make Lyanna observe her courtesies and lady conduct since he planned to marry her to the south, so I don’t know if Lyarra’s death is a satisfactory explanation for Lyanna’s wildness.
Honestly, I don’t really think of Lyarra as this ladylike figure that would have amended Lyanna’s behavior if she’d been present. Lyarra grew up with Arya Flint for a mother and while we don’t know any more about Arya than we know about Lyarra, the harsh lives that the mountain clans live and the fact that they have to withstand wildlings and Ironborn raids regularly does not provide an environment for perfect ladies. These women need to contend with harsh living conditions and raiders looking to rape or kill them; they need to know how to fight, they need to know how to raise fighters. There’s not a lot of space for courtesies and courtly delicacies in those conditions. To borrow from the symbolic statue in Bear Island, the mountain clanswomen need to have a babe in one arm and an axe in the other just as much as the Mormonts need to.
To speak of the First Flints in particular, this is the clan that bred Danny Flint, a young girl who dressed up as a boy to join the Night’s Watch (it’s worth mentioning that we don’t actually know which House Flint Danny belongs to but it’s far more feasible for her to belong to the First Flints with their proximity to the Wall and the Nightfort in particular than for her to come from Flint’s Fingers or Widow’s Watch). It also bears mentioning that the only thing we do know about Arya Flint is a line about how her blood was the reason Bran Stark was such a fool for climbing. That suggests to me that she was wild and wilful and free-spirited and a little reckless as well. I don’t imagine such a woman would raise Lyarra to be any different.
Neither would Rodrik Stark, I’d reckon. This is a guy who traveled extensively as to earn the sobriquet the Wandering Wolf, who became a sellsword and served with the Second Sons getting exposed to other cultures and customs. I’m not saying that he’d have gotten back ready to train Lyarra and Branda in arms, but I also don’t think he’d be beholden to rigid lordly conduct either. Picking a wild clanswoman for a wife in what is almost certainly not a dynastic match can only be a testament to that.