That’s quite a reach. This interpretation goes out of its way to place blame on the Princess of Dorne by deliberately misrepresenting the circumstances of Elia’s marriage and painting the Princess as a merely an obsessed power-hungry woman who sacrificed her daughter for the sake of power. Which I vehemently disagree with. She is not Tywin Lannister, anon.
First of all, for one to claim that the Princess of Dorne is culpable in Elia’s death assumes that she could have reasonably predicted Rhaegar’s actions, which she couldn’t have. There were no warning signs of what Rhaegar would do and no reason for anyone to think that the famously chivalric prince would screw up so badly or be so impolitic. Up until Rhaegar actually botched things at Harrenhal, he was a reputable man that many looked to as the hope for the future of House Targaryen. No one could have looked at him circa 279 and concluded that he’s behave so irrationally or so publicly, or that he’s fail his wife and children so profoundly. So if, to the best of the Princess of Dorne’s knowledge, Rhaegar was a trustworthy and honorable man, what are you blaming her for? Not being clairvoyant?
It’s not reasonable to blame the her for not expecting the
unexpected when she had absolutely no indication of it. She could not have known and I’m not about to blame her for failing to see the future.
Second, I take issue with how you made Elia’s betrothal and marriage to be primarily about settling a score with Tywin which I find extremely minimizing to the Princess of Dorne. This frames a huge political action – one that more or less defines her character in our eyes since it’s the only one we “saw” her take – as merely a reaction to a slight, one that you go on to imply that she put above the well-being of her daughter. It makes her actions to be mainly about Tywin rather than her own. While she definitely found satisfaction in “winning that tilt” as Tyrion puts it, that was just the icing on the cake imo. Our knowledge of the Princess of Dorne may be minimal but it’s quite clear that she was a deft political player in her own right with an eye towards the advancement of both her House and her principality, and an ear to the ground to catch changes in the political landscape which was turbulent in Aerys’ reign. She was adept at the type of personal politics that direct Westeros and extremely effective at utilizing her personal relationships as a prelude to marital and political alliances. That precedes Tywin’s insult. That she was looking for an alliance with a great house outside of Dorne also precedes Tywin’s insult as evidenced by the fact that the two suitors we heard of prior to Rhaegar were no less than the heir to the Hightower and the heir to Casterly Rock. Taking her personal connection to House Targaryen into account and the fact that it was known that Aerys was specifically looking for a Valyrian-blooded bride for Rhaegar that he sent Steffon Baratheon to Volantis to find one, it’s only natural that the Princess of Dorne took the chance to ally herself with the royal family, especially at a time where everyone was making great alliances. First and foremost, that was because the Princess was an active and smart political player in the game, not primarily because she wanted to inflame Tywin Lannister. That was just a welcome added bonus.
Lastly, describing the situation as the Princess of Dorne forcing Elia to marry a man she did not love is a misrepresentation since it completely ignores the context of the marriage, the nature of Westerosi society, and the sociopolitical considerations that directs marriage practices in it. Marriage is a tool of political alliance in feudal societies. Politics are what determine marriage because that’s how the power
structure is maintained. Which of course does commodify individuals, especially women,
as pawns
to be used to gain alliances, political power, status, economic
privileges, etc which in turn undermines consent. The sociopolitical environment of Westeros means that people rarely get to choose their spouses, they rarely get to marry for love, they rarely even get consulted. Most marriages are arranged between heads of Houses, sometimes when the betrothed individuals are still children. That removes true agency from people.
Still, I’d still say that there is a huge difference between the average arranged marriage that might not have had the prior and explicit free consent of the two parties but wasn’t rejected or opposed to our knowledge, and between scenarios like that of Jon Arryn and Lysa Tully, or Robert Baratheon and Lyanna Stark where the woman unambiguously rejected the match and was forced into it. I find it hard to paint them all with the same brush as forced unions. In the same vein, while we don’t know much about the circumstances of Rhaegar and Elia’s marriage, and they certainly did not choose each other or were in love, we’ve gotten no indication that either of them was opposed to the match or that the Princess of Dorne forced Elia into an unwanted situation against her will. That may be a result of how little we know about Elia and the actual marriage to Rhaegar beyond somewhat pleasant if limited reflection from Barristan Selmy. But in the absence of as much as a hint that Elia rejected the match, I hesitate to assume that this was the case.
And yes, the Princess of Dorne did want political power and influence in court but again, it’s a feudal society. This is how the game is played. This doesn’t make her a blindly ambitious person who sacrificed her daughter for some power and a grudge. All the information she had indicated that she was marrying her daughter to a good man – a renowned knight known for his chivalry and opposition to his father. To the best of the Princess of Dorne’s knowledge, Rhaegar Targaryen was a perfect groom for her daughter whether politically or personally. Not only was he the future king and the wielder of unparalleled political power, but he was seemingly a decent man who many viewed as the hope for the future of the Targaryen dynasty – a famously chivalric knight that was the complete opposite of his selfish and mad father, a handsome well-read man with a penchant for singing, well-beloved by the smallfolk and respected by the nobles. No one could have looked at Rhaegar circa 279 and seen anything but a vision of a groom.